In the age of texting, email and online messengers, we have severely decreased the amount of really personal communications. Time we spend talking to one another in person or over the phone has decreased. We send emails instead of letters and tend to send a quick text message instead of calling. While technology has helped us in so many ways (for example, being able to communicate faster) we have lost a lot of the personal touch.
This week, it is time to bring that personal touch back.
One thing technology has done is to make old ways of communication feel that much more special. When you get a hand written letter or a present full of little surprises, you know that person really was thinking of you. They took the time to think about what to write or to fill the box with and then went down to the post office to send it to you. Yes, it would have been 10 times easier and 20 times faster to just send an email, but emails are not nearly as fun. This week, send someone you love a little present, card or flowers for no reason other than to say hi, letting them know you are thinking about them and that you care. It is easy and pretty fun for you to put together, and even more special for the person who receives your surprise.
The picture above is a little gift I received in the mail a couple weeks ago from my best friend that lives far away. To you it may just look like a mug, but it is from my favorite breakfast place about an hour from where she lives in Chicago that we ate at last time I visited her. This means she went all that way back to the restaurant to get this for me and then sent it to me. She is so thoughtful. I use it every day at work and it makes me very happy.
What will you send?
In an effort to foster our close relationships, it is important to act.
There is the saying: “it’s the thought that counts,” but that only can go so far. If you only keep thinking about talking to your friends or family, but don’t actually do it, you haven’t really achieved anything. So, this week, pickup the phone! Call your best friend that lives in Chicago or New York. Call your mom that lives in Ohio. Call your grandparents that live in Florida. Call your Aunt and Uncle that live in Germany. Even if you are not a big phone person, it’s the thought that you would take the time out of your day to call and talk to them, that really counts.
Make the effort. Catch up. Listen. Let them know you care.
In the next four weeks, we are going to focus on our friends and family. The people around us that give us the support we need. The people we choose to build our lives around.
“If you love someone tell them because hearts are often broken by words left unspoken.” – Pamela Daranjo
We often think it goes without saying how we feel about the people we include in our lives, but you may be surprised how easy it is for someone to forget or second guess. So, this week I challenge you to tell the people you love, that you do indeed love them. That you appreciate them and that you are happy to have them in your life. Your friends and family are those you have the closest relationship with, so remind them that they are important to you. If nothing else, it will make them feel happy.
Go on. Share the love.
This week we will examine the attitude of empathy.
How you are, (your attitude, your emotions, your energy) are constantly affecting others. I know we tend to put our heads down and only worry about what is going on in our own bubbles, but whether we like it or not, our bubbles are constantly bumping into and changing other peoples bubbles (paints a good picture, eh?). When you are grumpy or rude, not only will you be less likely to get what you want, but you will also be giving your negative attitude to the people around you, potentially making their day worse.
It seems like a lot of pressure to always be on our best behaviour in an effort to make sure others are happy, but it is be worth it. Not only will you positively affect those who are lucky enough to cross your path, but you will also be happier yourself everyday.
Here are a few ways to make sure you are exuding you best attitude, happy emotions and positive energy:
- Smile! Something so simple, but if you are feeling down and smile 5 big smiles, soon you will start to feel better. Also, smiles are contagious, so spread your rays of sunshine!
- Practice patience. If you start to become angry or frustrated (e.g.: trying to work with someone on the phone or at a help desk), give yourself a second, take a deep breath, and come at the situation with a more positive approach. You may be surprised as you might be able to get what you want! Also, realize that who you are working with is not the cause of your problem. They are people, too, and are just trying to do their jobs. So give them the benefit of the doubt!
- Pass out compliments like candy at a parade. Doing something for someone else and knowing you made someone else feel great will do wonders to how you feel.
- Look at the bright side. Not everything will go the way you want it to, but the best you can do is find the best in everything.
- Think positively. And positive things will come.
Now, no one is perfect and everyone is entitled to a bad day every now and again. Just make sure your bad day doesn’t make someone else have a bad day, too. You have the power to turn any day around!
Week 15 is about about the awareness of empathy. Be aware of your littlest actions as they will have an effect on someone else.
There are two things I don’t understand about swear words. The first: how swear words are actually created. When you breakdown the words, they are just a random collection of letters that have become a symbol, a stand in for a bad meaning. The second: why we even deem a word to have so much of a negative meaning.
This is something my step mom had me start thinking about. When you swear at something, you are essentially giving what you are swearing at negative energy. And yes, I understand this might sound more on the crazy side of life, but swearing at someone can’t be good. It can’t do good things for that person or thing. So, I just say, don’t do it. When you are driving and someone cuts you off, don’t call them an a**hole. Or say f*** you to them. Just let it go. You may be in a bad mood and you may not like that they aren’t paying attention while driving, but don’t make their day worse by giving them bad energy. Instead, take a breath, think something positive for that person and move on.
Now, you will be helping someone else as well as yourself have a more positive day.